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"Validate with" meaning in this context - English Language Learners Stack Exchange
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Programmatically validate SPF/DKIM/DMARC records for a domain? : PowerShell
Main Post: Programmatically validate SPF/DKIM/DMARC records for a domain? : PowerShell
We made a tool that analyzes millions of Reddit discussions to validate your idea — 100% free
Main Post: We made a tool that analyzes millions of Reddit discussions to validate your idea — 100% free
Top Comment: We wanted to make idea validation super easy and available to everyone so we built this free tool: https://buildpad.io/idea-validation How it works: Describe your idea (we do not save it) Get a problem statement + target audience (modify if needed) Click search Our AI searches through millions of Reddit discussions to gauge market demand Get a detailed analysis with insights about potential demand for your idea and some of the relevant posts found I want to stress one thing: There are different levels of validation. This is more of a soft validation and serves as an initial check mark to continue your idea. For full validation you should actually talk to real people. Appreciate any feedback on how we can make this better for you. Thank you! Edit: It appears that the biggest concern is that we would be saving or stealing ideas. I want to be clear that we do not do this. If anyone have any suggestions on how we can better deal with this objection, please let us know. Update: We spent the day working on the tool and we've managed to improve it further. Thanks to everyone that provided feedback!
How do I learn to validate myself and don't need ...
Main Post: How do I learn to validate myself and don't need ...
How do you validate an idea ?
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I’ve been working on a project with a friend for a while now and we both think that it has potential . We also asked some friends and families and they also think that it’s a good idea. But I still don’t know if the idea is validated since I need to ask actual potential users if the project has some value for them . How do you guys find potential users ? And do you just make posts explaining the project hoping that people find it interesting ? I might still be naive since this is my first big project , but won’t my idea be stolen if I just post about it online ?
Top Comment: Have you head of "The Mom Test: How to Talk to Customers & Learn If Your Business is a Good Idea When Everyone is Lying to You" by Rob Fitzpatrick"? It's been mentioned a couple of times in this sub. It's what I currently use before I even tell about the people close to me about my idea. For potential users I go with the people I have interviewed since they are the ones who experience the problem first hand.
How do I stop seeking validation from everyone and everything.
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My main issue is that no matter the achievement or change I make in my life it is never valid unless it has someone or something else’s stamp of approval. And it’s an issue where I need validation for everything. Like if I feel like someone doesn’t like me I’ll message them asking them how they are just to make sure we’ll still good. Every characteristic I have has to be agreed upon by someone else. If I want to make a decision on something relatively minor I need to ask like 5 other people to find out what they think I should do .
I’m tired of living this way. I want to improve and I know the only way I can do this is if I start seeing myself for who I truly am and act accordingly. But I cannot do this if I keep seeking validation from every tom dick and harry out there. I want to be secure in myself and give myself the opportunity to make mistakes (without hating everything about me ) and learn from them. Any advice? Also, thanks for listening.
Top Comment: Like the others have said, you need to work on self esteem. But let’s take things a step further, what’s the reason to seek validation? It all boils down to a sense of shame, and therefore, a lack of identity. Because you feel you were never good enough regardless of what you did or that you always needed someone’s (your parents/caretakers) seal of approval, you had to some degree probably developed a sense that there’s something bad or wrong with you. As bizarre as it sounds, self hatred/self rejection is a coping mechanism to lessen neglect/abuse/harm. Say for instance, a friend is getting bullied daily by a group of bullies. A way to lessen the abuse is to have the friend engage in beating themself up. To the bullies, this affirms their belief and behavior, so they don’t feel the need to bully your friend anymore if your friend is so “pathetic” they do it to themselves. Giving away their sense of agency and conversely, their own identity was a way your friend lessened abuse. Now let’s put this back on you. You might’ve not had an abusive background, but to some degree there probably was a degree of shaming or invalidation involved when growing up. For you, because you felt your autonomy and decision making was inherently wrong because you felt you could never do anything right, you largely gave your autonomy and agency up to avoid that feeling-your shame. That’s your first coping mechanism you learned. But humans also have an innate desire to see themselves as good and a need for socialization to survive-regardless of how they feel or were treated. Thus to feel like you belonged or were a good person, you sought validation and reassurance. That’s your second coping mechanism. How do you heal from this? You start becoming in tune with what you want and your own values of what makes you feel valid and good with your own standards instead now. You probably separated parts of you that you thought were “bad” or never good enough so others wouldn’t think there’s something bad or wrong with you but also to remain in harmony with others. It’s time to integrate those lost aspects of yourself you denied as opposed to fighting or denying them. I recommend looking into shadow work for in-depth answers. Additionally, that means to start engaging in habits and goals where you begin to understand yourself and feel more in control of your life rather than giving it to others: journaling, meditation, exercise, reading, etc. The price to heal this is ultimately getting to the point of not caring what others think because as you start to heal, others may become distant or uncomfortable with the parts of you that you left behind but that shouldn’t stop your progress.
This validate game thing has shown me even in the most left of spaces black people aren't safe and their stories will also be invalidated. The comments in this sub have been outright disgusting. (Pic unrelated)
Main Post: This validate game thing has shown me even in the most left of spaces black people aren't safe and their stories will also be invalidated. The comments in this sub have been outright disgusting. (Pic unrelated)
Top Comment: Even as a white dude I'm appalled at the number of people who would instantly turn on a black woman for suggesting that maybe trying to build a place where they can work and create without dealing with systematic injustice is fine, actually. Especially in the context she was speaking about, and to whom.
How to validate by talking with people in the industry?
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Hi there,
I know there are hundreds posts about validation here already and many mention to interview people.
But how do you make a random person that doesn't know you spend 30 minutes of their day to speak about their problems at work?
This is the part I dont have an answer to.
I did approach some people on linkedin and got told they have no time or didnt answer at all.
What is the best approach to take?
Thanks in advance!
Top Comment: I send a message on LinkedIn for example using this template: "Hey [name], I run a startup trying to [what you are working on/problem you are trying to solve]. I'm having a load of trouble figuring out how all the pieces of the industry fit together and where I can best fit into it. You know more about this industry than anyone and could really save me from a ton of mistakes. I'm still in the [mention the stage your startup is at currently], but this is in no way a sales meeting -- this industry is really new to me and could really use some of your expertise. Can you spare 10 - 15mins for a chat to point me in the right direction? Thank you as I anticipate your response. Kind regards, [Your name]" I got this template from either Mom test or how to sell like crazy, can't remember which of the books. Goodluck
How do you validate your ideas other than through Reddit?
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I’ve had this idea to identify security risks and code quality for open source projects using NLP and the only place I know people possibly interested are different subreddits. My teacher was saying how there’s a debate on how open source may not have proper security and code standards, but I don’t know how else to validate the idea or see if it’s worth while other than Reddit. Thank you for the feedback!
Top Comment: Talk to users, here: maybe open source developers. The only people who you should care about is your users (in this case potential users).
Most people don't know how to emotional validate others (vent post)
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Most people aren't bad people. Most people aren't intentionally trying to hurt others. But they just have no idea how to validate others. I love my mom to bits, but I'm coming to terms with the fact I can't seek her emotional support when I need it.
How can she validate me when her go to for dealing her own emotions is to repress them and then try to force herself to be happy?
Now she's unintentionally expecting me to have the same mindset and it's not working. It makes me upset every time.
Today I was talking about how I'm scared of the current economy. I'm afraid that I won't be able to find a job.
She was on the right track at first by telling me I can make a way for myself if I really tried. But I couldn't even really finish saying what was bothering me before she went on a Christian spiel about having faith (it's especially frustrating for me since I'm not Christian and I have some issues with the bible)
I said I was a scared and then she cut me off and told me not to be scared and to have faith in God and that God has given her everything she's needed thus far. Which I'm glad that's the case, im not religious but it was nice to see things go well for her.
That's not what I needed to hear though. Still not letting me finish what I was trying to say, she showed me some inspirational speeches from movies that I kinda didn't have an interest in watching.
So for like the 3rd time this week, I went to her for emotional support and she went left of field. And again, most people who do this don't even realize they're invalidating you.
She was trying her best to help me, she had good intentions and I appreciate that. But it ended up making me feel worse and like my lack of faith is the cause of my issues when really there's a big problem staring me in the face and I have no idea what how to handle it (as someone who's extremely inexperienced in life when I should be further along at my age).
If there's anything I've learned from being invalidated over and over, and on the flip side, consoling people who came to me for support, its that most people dont want you to change their mood. At least not when they first come to you with their problem.
They want to be heard, they want someone to be compassion towards them, they want someone to step inside their shoes and experience what they're experiencing with them for a bit. They want to feel like they're not alone
Once the person is validated, THEN move on to all of the motivational stuff and trying to cheer them up. If they want it that is. Empty platitudes, unsolicited advice, and trying to quickly get someone to change their mood before they're ready to move on makes people feel worse.
It's frustrating because I do this all the time with my mom and other people but I don't get the same back. I ask questions like, "what upset you in this situation?", "why do you do think this bothered you?", "how would you prefer this to have gone?".
Or I make sure they feel like they're not going crazy by saying things like "no, you have every right to feel that way", "I don't blame you at all for having that reaction", "it's not your fault this happened to you" etc. Most of the validation comes from being quiet and letting them speak as well.
And giving them cues that you're listening, even a few simple "mhms" while making sure you're looking them straight in the eyes with no distractions while they speak is validating.
I'm not saying I'm perfect at consoling people. There are times I'm at a loss for words and I understand that people have this issue too. I just wish others would admit "hey, I have no idea what to say but I hope things get better" vs trying to rush me out of a bad mood when I'm still processing and feeling my emotions.
It just doesn't work that way ☹️
Top Comment: People that lack emotional agility often default to spiritual bypassing and emotional blackmail . They don't know how to hold space for someone else. They don't know how to provide emotional attunement, empathetic mirroring, and co-regulation, so they end up making things worse by emotionally neglecting the person in front of them. It speaks to their own emotional immaturity. And is a huge red flag. They aren't safe or trustworthy people to be around.